Joscelynn has written about our desire to not raise Jonah in a protective, sanitized, no-risk bubble-world. Jonah Goldberg’s article today is about another developmnet in parenting I want to avoid, specialness. Our children will be loved for sure. They will also be special to us, but do they need to know it all the time? Are they automatically special and should be appreciated in the world for their specialness?
I am sure I have a bit of inherent specialness of my peers and wrapping generations; I do blog after all with the assumption people care about what I have to say. However I mostly know I am special today for 3 reasons: the bible tells me so (but it also tells me I am a sinner), my family loves me (but love means you tell people when they are wrong), and Orbitz pays me well for something I really like to do (but Alex and Jeremy are quick to keep me inline and make sure I don’t mess up and I often have to do thing I don’t want to do).
I am glad I was raised knowing that I messed up from time to time (mom, often?). I am glad that I was spanked, grounded, and forced into labor when I was wrong. I am also I played sports where there were winners and losers and we cared which we were. I am glad I was in 4-H, where there is competition for Champion and Grand Champion and it was my to win.
This seems to be slipping away. What are some other areas were automatic specialness is popping up? What should we keep an eye out for while raising our special little boy?